The elusive dream that we all chase after, how different it is
for each and every one of us...to be happy. What does that really mean
and how does one go about to bring real happiness into our lives.
Are You Happy?
Because we are all wired differently, happiness has different meanings for all of us. I'm from Detroit, Michigan, and for so many of us here, happiness would be seeing the Detroit Lions win a Superbowl, that would be real happiness.
To others, happiness would mean meeting that right person to settle down with, getting that big break on American Idol, or landing that big contract that sets you up financially for the rest of your life.
What is happiness to you? I want you to take a couple of minutes right now, and really give that some thought. What would really make you happy? What would really make your life complete?
I want to give you 5 things that you must have to be happy. Five absolutely essential ingredients you must have before your life can ever experience real happiness.
These are five elements that aren't very easy to find. They are not just out there for anyone to pick up. They are elements that you have to search for, and they are character qualities that you must possess and then give away before you can ever have any real true happiness.
We have it all wrong in our society today. We go out and we try to find people who have these elements, and are willing to give them away to us before we ever even consider anything else.
1. Do You Want to Be Happy?
Be Happy!
Some people are content just doing what they are doing, and if happiness comes, great, but if it doesn't, that's alright with them. Happiness is not on the top of their agenda.
I know some people who are miserable, and full of negativity. You could give them a million dollars and they would complain that the bills were to stiff. They seem to enjoy that place that they hold all by their lonesome, because not to many people want to be around them.
You have to find out, if the pursuit of happiness is what you really want in your life, and than go out and make it happen.
2. Truth
Truth must be at the heart and core of any real pursuit of happiness, because without it you will wander aimlessly for the rest of your life, maybe touching the hem of the happiness garment, without ever really getting into it.
Truth is something that is not very easy to find in our world today. Nobody tells the truth anymore and no one really cares. We lie to the police when we get pulled over, we lie on our taxes, we lie to our spouses, bosses, and on and on it goes.
I don't care if it's a relationship with your spouse, a relationship with your boss, your kids, your friends, if it's not based on truth you have nothing. Truth has got to be there. Find a man or women of integrity, and you've found a very rare person.
3. Trust
Trust goes along with truth. Without truth, you will never have trust. They go hand in hand. You can't have one without the other. It's so important to build your relationships around these two elements, but be careful, because if you lose one of them, you will lose them both, and they are very hard to get back.
The story goes of a man who, after a year of dating his girlfriend, decided he was going to ask her to marry him at this year's Superbowl game. He spent over $8000 for tickets and everything, when he was diagnosed with kidney cancer. When his girlfriend found out...she dumped him. Come to find out, that his cancer was not terminal, and he should have a full recovery.
I guess you could say that his cancer not only saved his life, but also saved him from making the biggest mistake in his pursuit of real happiness. There was certainly no truth or trust, and not very much love either.
4. Give
I hear so many people today that think they are in this relationship for what you can give to me. The, "What Have You Done For Me Lately", song by Janet Jackson is their favorite song.
I read people on Twitter say, "this is the way I am, and you better take me the way I am. I don't give a **** what you think". If you are dating or are friends to a person with this kind of attitude, run as fast and as far away from them as you can.
There are chemicals that are released in our bodies whenever we give or do something good for someone else, without expecting anything in return. This chemical called, endorphins that are released make us feel good, and they are good for us.
Maybe you've already experienced this, when you helped someone out, or picked something up for them, or were just there to do good for no reason at all. Didn't you feel great afterwards? It's a very special feeling. Learn how to give.
5. Take
This might sound weird being on the list to make you happy, but it has a very important role for us. I don't mean to take for selfish reasons and with the idea of hurting someone else, what I mean is to learn the humbleness of allowing to receive what someone else is giving.
My wife is a very loving and giving person. She will always go above and beyond what anyone is expecting, and she will never ever, accept anything in return. She is always there to help anyone who is in need.
When her mother passed away a few years ago, it was a very hard time for her. She was very close with her mother, and she was struggling. Well we had friends and family that came along side and were helping out with everything, but as it is with my wife, she just naturally got up and started doing her thing.
One of our friends came alongside her and almost had to nail her to her chair, and told her that this was her time to take. Let her friends have the blessing of giving to her during a time that they knew she really needed it. My wife right then and there, had to learn how to take.
All these elements are not going to be easy to find, but they must be there for you or I to ever find happiness. I'll give you a hint on where you can start your search. They're not out there, the first place that you must look is right inside of you. If you don't find them there, you won't find them anywhere.
You see the 5 things that you must have to be happy are found in your heart. They must be in you first before you can even start to look for them in others.
Happiness affects every part of your being. When you're happy, you're healthy, and when you're happy and healthy it starts to spill over onto everyone around you.
Start spilling over onto other people around you...they won't mind.
Are You Happy?
Because we are all wired differently, happiness has different meanings for all of us. I'm from Detroit, Michigan, and for so many of us here, happiness would be seeing the Detroit Lions win a Superbowl, that would be real happiness.
To others, happiness would mean meeting that right person to settle down with, getting that big break on American Idol, or landing that big contract that sets you up financially for the rest of your life.
What is happiness to you? I want you to take a couple of minutes right now, and really give that some thought. What would really make you happy? What would really make your life complete?
I want to give you 5 things that you must have to be happy. Five absolutely essential ingredients you must have before your life can ever experience real happiness.
These are five elements that aren't very easy to find. They are not just out there for anyone to pick up. They are elements that you have to search for, and they are character qualities that you must possess and then give away before you can ever have any real true happiness.
We have it all wrong in our society today. We go out and we try to find people who have these elements, and are willing to give them away to us before we ever even consider anything else.
1. Do You Want to Be Happy?
Be Happy!
Some people are content just doing what they are doing, and if happiness comes, great, but if it doesn't, that's alright with them. Happiness is not on the top of their agenda.
I know some people who are miserable, and full of negativity. You could give them a million dollars and they would complain that the bills were to stiff. They seem to enjoy that place that they hold all by their lonesome, because not to many people want to be around them.
You have to find out, if the pursuit of happiness is what you really want in your life, and than go out and make it happen.
2. Truth
Truth must be at the heart and core of any real pursuit of happiness, because without it you will wander aimlessly for the rest of your life, maybe touching the hem of the happiness garment, without ever really getting into it.
Truth is something that is not very easy to find in our world today. Nobody tells the truth anymore and no one really cares. We lie to the police when we get pulled over, we lie on our taxes, we lie to our spouses, bosses, and on and on it goes.
I don't care if it's a relationship with your spouse, a relationship with your boss, your kids, your friends, if it's not based on truth you have nothing. Truth has got to be there. Find a man or women of integrity, and you've found a very rare person.
3. Trust
Trust goes along with truth. Without truth, you will never have trust. They go hand in hand. You can't have one without the other. It's so important to build your relationships around these two elements, but be careful, because if you lose one of them, you will lose them both, and they are very hard to get back.
The story goes of a man who, after a year of dating his girlfriend, decided he was going to ask her to marry him at this year's Superbowl game. He spent over $8000 for tickets and everything, when he was diagnosed with kidney cancer. When his girlfriend found out...she dumped him. Come to find out, that his cancer was not terminal, and he should have a full recovery.
I guess you could say that his cancer not only saved his life, but also saved him from making the biggest mistake in his pursuit of real happiness. There was certainly no truth or trust, and not very much love either.
4. Give
I hear so many people today that think they are in this relationship for what you can give to me. The, "What Have You Done For Me Lately", song by Janet Jackson is their favorite song.
I read people on Twitter say, "this is the way I am, and you better take me the way I am. I don't give a **** what you think". If you are dating or are friends to a person with this kind of attitude, run as fast and as far away from them as you can.
There are chemicals that are released in our bodies whenever we give or do something good for someone else, without expecting anything in return. This chemical called, endorphins that are released make us feel good, and they are good for us.
Maybe you've already experienced this, when you helped someone out, or picked something up for them, or were just there to do good for no reason at all. Didn't you feel great afterwards? It's a very special feeling. Learn how to give.
5. Take
This might sound weird being on the list to make you happy, but it has a very important role for us. I don't mean to take for selfish reasons and with the idea of hurting someone else, what I mean is to learn the humbleness of allowing to receive what someone else is giving.
My wife is a very loving and giving person. She will always go above and beyond what anyone is expecting, and she will never ever, accept anything in return. She is always there to help anyone who is in need.
When her mother passed away a few years ago, it was a very hard time for her. She was very close with her mother, and she was struggling. Well we had friends and family that came along side and were helping out with everything, but as it is with my wife, she just naturally got up and started doing her thing.
One of our friends came alongside her and almost had to nail her to her chair, and told her that this was her time to take. Let her friends have the blessing of giving to her during a time that they knew she really needed it. My wife right then and there, had to learn how to take.
All these elements are not going to be easy to find, but they must be there for you or I to ever find happiness. I'll give you a hint on where you can start your search. They're not out there, the first place that you must look is right inside of you. If you don't find them there, you won't find them anywhere.
You see the 5 things that you must have to be happy are found in your heart. They must be in you first before you can even start to look for them in others.
Happiness affects every part of your being. When you're happy, you're healthy, and when you're happy and healthy it starts to spill over onto everyone around you.
Start spilling over onto other people around you...they won't mind.
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